NOW THAT WE ARE INTO 2021 AND THE FIRST WEEK HAS BEEN A BIT... SHALL WE SAY TOO FAMILIAR... AND QUITE UNCOMFORTABLE IT'S TIME TO LAUNCH THE LIVE INTENTIONALLY 2021 COLLECTION.   

THIS ONE IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME PERSONALLY.  WORDS MATTER.  AND AS A MOTHER OF SO MANY (SO MANY) IT IS SO IMPORTANT THAT WE REALIZE THAT.   THEY STICK LIKE GLUE... YOU CANNOT TAKE THEM BACK.  

LIVING INTENTIONALLY IS GIVING YOUR TIME TO WHAT TRULY MATTERS.  STOP APOLOGIZING WHEN YOU NEED TO SAY NO.  DON'T APOLOGIZE OR FEEL BAD ABOUT SETTING BOUNDARIES.  AS A MATTER OF FACT IT'S HEALTHY, IT IS NECESSARY AND NOT ENOUGH OF US WERE TAUGHT THAT.   (LET'S DO A BETTER JOB TEACHING THIS GENERATION).  🗣YOU DO NOT HAVE TO APOLOGIZE FOR NOT BEING PERFECT.  NOW, THAT DOESN'T LET US OFF THE HOOK FOR POOR ACTIONS... EVERY ACTION HAS A REACTION...  AND ON THE DAYS I AM NOT A PERFECT MOTHER...LIKE MAYBE TONIGHT... I DEFINITELY OWN IT.  BUT PERFECTION CAN BE A CURSE... STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT.  BE HUMAN.   AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, THE UNIVERSE, PEACE ON EARTH AND GOOD WILL TOWARDS ALL OF US, IT IS OKAY TO CRY.  IT IS OKAY TO SHOW EMOTION.   SO MANY PEOPLE WERE TAUGHT THAT IT IS A WASTE OF TIME.   THAT IT IS A SIGN OF WEAKNESS.  NAH.  I THINK IT IS A SIGN OF STRENGTH.   IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO FEEL THAT WAY.  I LIKE TO THINK OF MYSELF AS AN EVER EVOLVING VERSION OF MY CURRENT BEST SELF... I USED TO BE ALLERGIC TO THE FEELINGS.   DEFINITELY A COPING MECHANISM (READ MY MOM'S BOOK WHEN IT COMES OUT 🤣)... I MEAN I WAS NOT ALLERGIC TO ANGER.   😬  OR OPPOSITIONAL BEHAVIOR TYPE FEELINGS... BUT AGAIN THOSE WERE JUST COPING MECHANISMS FOR HURT AND ANXIETY.... OR FEELINGS I DID NOT WANT TO DEAL WITH.  

STOP DOING THAT.   LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE. IT IS LIKE BEING ON A DIET AND RESTRICTING YOURSELF.  SORRY, DOES NOT WORK FOREVER.  YOU WILL EVENTUALLY GO CRAZY AND EAT ALLLLL THE THINGS.... NOT FEELING IS THE SAME.  OR PRETENDING ITS ALL GOOD WHEN IT IS NOT.

WE CANNOT CONTROL THE NUMBER OF DAYS WE GET.... FOR SOME IT WAS, IS AND WILL BE WAYYYY TO FEW AND THAT IS SOMETHING I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND... BUT FOR THE DAYS WE DO GET... LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE.   STOP PRETENDING IT'S OKAY, EVERYTHING IS OKAY.  

WE ARE LIVING IN A CRAZY WORLD.  THIS WEEK ALONE I HAVE HAD MANY DISCUSSIONS THAT WERE UNCOMFORTABLE, NECESSARY, AND ONES I DID NOT IMAGINE DELVING INTO THE FIRST WEEK OF THE NEW YEAR.   YOU SHOULD FEEL EMOTION ABOUT THIS WEEK.    IF YOU DON'T I ACTUALLY FEEL SORRY FOR YOU.  

STAND UP FOR WHAT IS RIGHT.   NOW, SINCE WE ARE ALL CREATED DIFFERENTLY AND OUR EXPERIENCES ARE JUST AS DIVERSE, THAT PHRASE MEANS SO MANY THINGS TO SO MANY PEOPLE.   LET'S LOOK AT IT THIS WAY.   IS IT GOOD?  IS IT KIND?  DOES IT MOVE US FORWARD?   LISTEN, I HAVE SEEN A LOT OF SHIT ON SOCAIL MEDIA THIS WEEK.   IT IS NO SECRET THAT I AM NOT A FAN OF TRUMP.  IT IS NO SECRET THAT I FEEL BOTH MAJOR PARTIES HERE IN THE US OF A ARE FLAWED.  IT IS NO SECRET THAT I FEEL OUTRAGE FOR SO MANY THINGS AND THAT SOMETIMES I DO NOT REALLY FEEL A PART OF ANY GROUP.   THERE ARE GROUPS I HAVE BELONGED TO FOR A LONG TIME... BUT AS I EVOLVE AS A PERSON, MANY OF THOSE PEOPLE DO NOT EVOLVE THE SAME WAY I AM.   AM I BETTER?  NO.  AM I RIGHT?  I ALWAYS THINK I AM RIGHT.  (JK, JK).  IT IS HARD... TO FIND YOUR PLACE?   THE PLACES I BELONGED IN MY PAST I DO NOT EVEN IDENTIFY WITH SOMETIMES... AS A MATTER OF FACT A LOT OF THEM I AM SHOCKED BY ON THE DAILY... EVEN EMBARRASSED OR BEWILDERED BY....  

I HAVE EVEN BEEN BLOCKED A FEW TIMES THIS WEEK.  IT'S OKAY. GOOD FOR YOU TO BE ABLE TO DO THAT... TO NOT HAVE SOME EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE ALL UP IN THERE WORRIED ABOUT FEELINGS OF OTHERS LOL.  (YA, HI, ME). OHH THERE ARE MANY I WOULD LOVE TO BLOCK... WHY DON'T I?   I AM NOT QUITE SURE... MAYBE I WILL DISCOVER THAT AS I EVOLVE.  

I USED TO BE FAR MORE ACTIVE ON SOCIAL MEDIA...  ONE OF THE THINGS THIS YEAR HAS TAUGHT ME IS JUST HOW BAD IT GETS THERE... KEYBOARD WARRIORS... PEOPLE WILL SAY ANYTHING WITHOUT REGARD FOR OTHERS.   THE COMMENT SECTIONS... I READ THEM AND I THINK TO MYSELF "ARE THESE PEOPLE REAL?"  - I MEAN ARE THESE THE PEOPLE MY CHILDREN ENCOUNTER WHEN I AM NOT WITH THEM???   IT'S KIND OF SCARY.    SO I POST LESS... I DO NOT SPEND EVERY FREE MOMENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA... I HAVE MISSED MANY THINGS THIS YEAR- BIRTH, DEATH, BREAKING NEWS, NEW DOGS, FRIENDS CELEBRATIONS, THE GOOD, THE BAD, FAMILY ECT.  BUT THE WORLD NEVER STOPPED.  I DO ENJOY A GOOD SCROLL IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT WHEN I CAN'T SLEEP.... PROBABLY NOT THE BEST IDEA 🤦‍♀️.

BUT IT GOES ALONG WITH LIVING INTENTIONALLY... NOT GIVING ALL OF THAT TIME TO THINGS THAT REALLY DO NOT MATTER.   IS JONNY GOING TO EVEN NOTICE I DIDN'T LIKE HIS NEW CAR??? IS SALLY GOING TO SEE I DIDN'T WATCH HER DINNER ON HER STORY?!!   HARD TO NOT BE ONLINE WHEN YOUR BUSINESS IS JUST THAT THOUGH... SO WHEN I AM IT IS GENERALLY FOR DISSENT WEAR.  

NAVIGATING JUST THIS BEGINNING OF JANUARY HAS BEEN A LOT.  I AM REALLY OPEN WITH MY KIDS... OF COURSE AGE APPROPRIATE (MOST OF THE TIME).... WE DISCUSS REAL LIFE.  WE ARE HONEST WHEN THEY ASK QUESTIONS.  WE DO NOT HIDE OR DANCE AROUND TRUTH.  TRUTH IS SO IMPORTANT IN OUR HOUSE.   SO IS MAKING SURE THEY KNOW WE WILL DO EVERYTHING, ALWAYS, TO KEEP THEM SAFE.  NO MATTER HOW OLD THEY ARE.  

LASTLY TREAT YOURSELF WITH KINDNESS.   WHY IS THAT SO HARD?  WHY ARE WE CONDITIONED TO BE SO CRITICAL OF OURSELVES?   WHAT MAKES CULTURE THAT WAY??  WHAT MAKES THE AMERICAN CULTURE THAT WAY????  IS IT 24/7 ACCESS TO LITERALLY ANYTHING AT OUR FINGER TIPS???  WE ARE SO USED TO WANT IT, GET IT RIGHT NOW THAT WHEN WE ARE A WORK IN PROGRESS WE GET ANGRY OR EVEN MEAN TO OURSELVES.  WE THINK LESS OF OURSELVES.  

2021, BE INTENTIONAL WITH HOW YOU SPEAK TO YOURSELF.  IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE.   WORDS MATTER.  EVEN WORDS TO YOURSELF.  <3